Do you ever wish you could have spoken better words to someone you love?
The more I learn about words and the definitions behind them, I understand what something means, or what someone says. According to Dr. Google, the definition of a word is “a single distinct meaningful element of speech or writing, used with others to form a sentence.” It is also used as a form of expression. Words are very useful and helpful with expression, asking for direction, and trying to explain how we may be feeling. However, our words are limited to the language we understand. For example, the most comprehendible person in English will not be able to understand a Spanish speaker fully on language alone. Therefore, words have a limit. My aim is to express that the words we say are not nearly as important as the energy we have behind the words.
Imagine being in a foreign country where English is not spoken – hard to imagine these days – and you are in dire need for the restroom. *If you just rolled your eyes, you’ll get there someday* You hurry up to someone and ask where the bathroom is, but they do not comprehend what you just asked. If you’re like me you might pretend to pee to show what you mean, but sometimes that still stalls the person (Pun intended). It isn’t until that person senses the energy of anxiousness and fear behind what you do and say that he points you in the direction of the holy restroom. Then, we thank that person based on the sense of relief we just got from direction. That person can sense the energy of “thank you.”
In other words, when we meet someone that doesn’t speak the same language as us, we communicate based on hand language, signs, whatever the means, but what really communicates is the energy behind what we say or what we express. Energy is deeper, it has no limits, it is the language of the world.
It seems to be so understandable when speaking to someone foreign, but we forget this universal language when speaking to someone that, in our mind, should understand what we’re saying. Huh, so we expect that since this person knows English he ought to know what I am saying to this person. However, this is not the case.
The way we communicate is the energy behind what we say. Is there someone that you sense so much love around by just being with that person? They may say some words improperly, but you know that they are communicating from a place of love. Under all the fear and struggle we may expend to “find” the right words to say, is a deep place of love that we all communicate.
It’s with these people that we can even say goofy things like, “you’re such an idiot” but it really means, “I love you so much you weirdo.”
Even in the people that we think are crazy, is an energy of love that we can choose to sense. It is challenging to see at times because the fear can be so big. Nonetheless, there is love under all that fear.
My father always wishes he had the right words to say, to express what he means. But to me the words are not what expresses what he means; it is the energy behind the words that I choose to observe. It is there, beneath the surface, that I sense his love.
In the Alchemist, Paulo Coelho writes that “everyone seems to have a clear idea of how other people should lead their lives, but none about his or her own.”
With our power to choose in life, why not choose to see that loved ones are communicating out of love? Love that person and focus on yourself.
Instead of wishing to speak the right words, how about we focus on the energy behind what we wish to say. Then, we can never be wrong because what we say comes from the heart. The language of the heart is love. Love always speaks clearly.
“Why do we have to listen to our hearts?” Santiago asks.
“Because, wherever your heart is, that is where you will find your treasure.”